Man, I’ve been doing it wrong this entire time

### **Instructions:**

1. **Cook the Pasta:**
Bring a large pot of salted water to a boil. Add your pasta and cook until al dente (follow the instructions on the package, but aim for it to be just slightly firm to the bite). Be sure to reserve about 1 cup of pasta water before draining.

2. **Prepare the Guanciale:**
While the pasta is cooking, place your diced guanciale in a large skillet over medium heat. Cook, stirring occasionally, until the guanciale is crispy and the fat has rendered, about 5-7 minutes. The fat will help create the base of the sauce.

3. **Make the Egg Mixture:**
In a separate bowl, whisk together the egg yolks, whole egg, and grated Pecorino Romano cheese. Season generously with freshly ground black pepper. You want the mixture to be smooth and creamy. Set it aside.

4. **Combine Everything:**
Once the pasta is done, drain it (don’t forget to save that pasta water!). Add the hot pasta directly to the skillet with the guanciale, tossing to coat the pasta in the rendered fat. This is where things get interesting: The pasta should still be steaming hot when you add the egg mixture. This heat will gently cook the eggs, creating that rich, silky sauce.

5. **Create the Sauce:**
Slowly pour the egg mixture into the pasta, tossing continuously. The goal is to create a creamy sauce without scrambling the eggs. If the sauce seems too thick, add a little pasta water, one tablespoon at a time, until you reach a creamy, smooth consistency.

6. **Finish and Serve:**
Once the pasta is fully coated in the creamy sauce, plate it and finish with a generous sprinkle of Pecorino Romano and more freshly ground black pepper.

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## Why This Carbonara Changed Everything

**1. The Absence of Cream:** The most surprising change for me was how the egg yolks and cheese combined to create that perfect, creamy texture. The secret? Heat from the pasta and the rendered fat from the guanciale. No cream necessary—just a perfect marriage of ingredients.

**2. The Guanciale:** Using guanciale was a game-changer. The cured pork cheek provides a rich, silky texture that pancetta just can’t replicate. It also delivers a deep, savory flavor that permeates every bite of pasta.

**3. The Pasta Water:** This might sound like a small thing, but using a bit of reserved pasta water to adjust the sauce consistency made all the difference. It helps bind the sauce to the pasta and adds extra starch, making the dish even more decadent.

**4. Freshly Ground Pepper:** The pepper is *key* to the flavor of carbonara. Don’t just use pre-ground pepper—freshly ground black pepper adds a punchy, aromatic bite that really makes the dish come alive.

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## Conclusion: I’ve Been Doing It Wrong This Entire Time

Looking back, it’s hard to believe that I had been cooking my carbonara with cream and pancetta all those years. The changes I made—using guanciale, skipping the cream, and focusing on fresh ingredients—transformed my carbonara into something *extraordinary*. The flavor, texture, and richness are exactly what I had been missing all along.

If you’ve been doing it like I did, thinking you need cream or pancetta, trust me—this authentic version will blow your mind. Now, every time I make it, my husband (who has always loved carbonara) acts like it’s a completely new dish. And I couldn’t be more proud of how this classic Italian recipe turned out.

So, next time you’re in the kitchen cooking up pasta, remember: sometimes, we all need to admit we’ve been doing it wrong—and that’s okay. It’s part of the journey to becoming a better cook!