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He gestured around. “My birthday? This weekend? Twenty people? I told everyone you were making that roast again. The house is a mess. How are we supposed to do this now?”
I blinked. “Jason, I can’t cook. I can’t clean. I can barely get my shirt on. I broke my arm on our porch. Because you didn’t shovel.”
For him.
Not one word about how scared I’d been. Just his party.
None of this was new.
On paper, I was his wife. In reality, I was his unpaid help.
I didn’t raise my voice.
I didn’t shed a tear.
“Okay,” I said evenly. “I’ll take care of it.”
He narrowed his eyes for a moment, then smirked. “Knew you would.”
First call: a cleaning company.
They had availability the next day. I booked it.
Second call: catering.
I spoke with a woman named Maria. “I need appetizers, entrées, sides, desserts, and a birthday cake for about twenty people.”
We settled on sliders, pasta, salads, vegetables, dessert trays, and a large cake reading Happy Birthday, Jason.
The total came to around six hundred dollars.
I paid from my personal savings—the account he didn’t know about.
It stung.
But not nearly as much as his complete lack of concern ever had.
Then I made the third call.
My attorney.
We’d met months earlier, back when I started searching phrases like mental load in marriage and is this normal or am I imagining things? She’d already prepared divorce papers “for whenever you’re ready.”
“I’m ready,” I said. “Can he be served at the party?”
There was a pause. Then, “Yes. We can arrange that.”
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