Hospice Chef Reveals the Most Requested Last Meal by Patients

Family Over Food
Sometimes, the company matters more than the meal itself. “For many, food becomes symbolic for comfort, connection and memories. While their physical appetite may diminish, the comfort of a familiar taste and the emotional significance of food often remains strong,” said Michelle Thornhill, an end-of-life doula and vice president of the National End-of-Life Doula Alliance, to HuffPost. “Some individuals may want to share a favorite meal with loved ones — not because they need nourishment, but because it provides a sense of normalcy or nostalgia, and helps them to maintain a sense of agency and presence with family and friends for as long as they’re able.”

According to Gail Inderwies, the founder of hospice and home health provider KeystoneCare, people tend to ask for comfort foods like ice cream, mashed potatoes, chicken soup, or dishes reflective of their heritage. “When my grandma was dying, I made her meatballs and ravioli,” Inderwies recalled. “She took just a few bites, but she smiled as it brought back many fond memories.” She encourages families to become chefs together when they have a relative in hospice. “I always tell the families I work with to prepare a favorite dish together. When you’re sitting at a table, sharing a tradition and laughing together, you give a message to the dying patient that you’ll be OK.”